How do you know when to start dating again
Otherwise it’s hard to break the cycle, and you will keep meeting and dating the same type of person – the commitment-phobe, the co-dependent, the loner, etc.
and you will find yourself unhappy in the same ways.
And after I’d fallen in love and spent countless hours entwined in the connection with him, I decided to stop seeing him.
Not because I wasn’t ready, but because By completely letting go and trusting the universe and jumping into intimacy with a man again I found my heart.
Think of it this way: your dates don’t want to hear about your ex when they are spending time with you.
They want to know what to expect going forward, what it will feel like to be in a relationship with you, not you and your ex. Create a real new chapter, not just a new version of the old life you’re still trying to hang onto.
See what it feels like to live by yourself, to take a solo road trip, to create a new daily routine just for you.
If you tend to retreat and isolate yourself, and you split with your ex a while ago – then you might want to see what it feels like to put yourself out there and risk being vulnerable to falling in love.
The reason for this is – we like to stay in our comfort zones. Here’s another aspect to consider: do you think potential dates are ready to date ?
So while I can’t tell you exactly how long you should wait before you begin dating, I can tell you this: get to know yourself a little better. And if you’re still in doubt, then you should probably wait.
Listen to your spiney sense–your intuition, not your fear.
It’s okay to cry, to grieve, to search for meaning – this is the stuff of life, and none of us is immune.
You will come out the other side of the pain, and you will be stronger for it.